Learning to Belong to Myself
Coming out was freedom - but what came after? We explore belonging, authenticity, and the quiet courage of becoming yourself.
What Regret Taught Me (So You Don’t Have to Learn the Hard Way)
Coming out was never the hard part - staying true once the noise began was. I spent years chasing belonging through busyness, mistaking visibility for value. When the mask cracked, I learned something quieter but more enduring: peace isn’t found in being everywhere, it’s built by being honest somewhere. Sobriety, structure, and small rituals didn’t make life smaller - they made it real.
The Mindful Miles: How Exercise Teaches Us to Slow Down, Breathe, and Be
Exercise doesn’t just strengthen the body - it can quiet the mind. Slowing down into zone 2 running or mindful movement offers a rare stillness in motion, a state where stress eases and presence takes over. This piece explores how mindfulness and exercise intertwine, from scientific evidence on mood-boosting neurochemicals to the lived reality of finding peace through steady effort.
Forty, Without the Filter: Notes on Getting Older, Getting Real, and Getting a Life
Turning forty feels less like joining the “This Is 40” Instagram brigade and more like finally meeting myself. I don’t have the dream house, a partner on my arm, or thirst traps to prove I still “look good for my age.” What I do have is sobriety, friendships that last longer than a weekend, and a body and mind I can actually trust. This isn’t about being “blessed.” It’s about being real, reflective, and quietly proud of progress over perfection.
Am I OK? A True Answer for R U OK? Day
For years my answer to “R U OK?” was no. I numbed, I spiralled, and I couldn’t picture life getting better. One honest sentence — “I’m not OK” — led to 30 days in hospital and a slow rebuild built on therapy, movement, and showing up. Today my answer is yes. If yours isn’t, borrow my belief and start with one conversation. I’ll listen.
Dry(ish) Is the New Deep: How Drinking Less (or Not at All) Gave Me My Life Back
I used to outsource confidence to a drink. Quitting didn’t turn me saintly — it made me steadier. With more people rethinking alcohol (and data backing the shift), this is the sober-ish playbook that rebuilt my energy, friendships, and self-respect: morning anchors, clean-fun rituals, social plans that don’t revolve around booze, and a kinder way to “start again.” No preaching — just practical steps for a life that feels like yours again.
Wander Lost: When Was the Last Time You Just Went for a Walk?
When was the last time you just went for a walk — no agenda, no headphones, no steps to count? In a world that rewards hustle and highlights, walking offers something quieter: presence. This reflection explores awe, queer solitude, and the small, rebellious joy of moving through it instead of escaping it.
The Sleep That Saved My Sanity
For years, I thought I was just tired. In reality, I was unravelling. This is the story of how sleep — real, restorative, fight-for-it sleep — helped kick-start my sobriety, regulate my emotions, and bring me back to a version of myself I actually liked.
Still Becoming: On Friendship, Identity, and Starting Again
At nearly 40, I thought I’d be settled — friendships locked in, identity formed, life humming along. But starting again doesn’t mean going backwards. In this reflection, I explore what it means to be in midlife and still becoming — still seeking friendship, still letting go, still learning how to belong. If you’ve ever felt the ache of wanting deeper connection, this one’s for you.
Back Into the Lion’s Den
After years of healing, sobriety, and rediscovering purpose, I’ve returned to the city I once left behind — but this time, I’m different. This story is about growth, boundaries, ambition, and learning to protect your peace, even when old environments come knocking. Some friendships may not survive this new chapter, and that’s okay. Because not everyone is meant to go where you’re headed.
The Shift That Saved Me — And Why One Session Might Be Enough to Start Yours
After nearly a decade of drifting through mental health challenges, Get Out founder, Brodie shares the mindset shift that changed everything. Blending personal reflection with evidence from emerging research on single-session therapy, this piece explores how real change starts with small steps — not perfect plans. For anyone who’s ever felt stuck, flat, or quietly overwhelmed, this is your reminder that healing doesn’t always begin with a breakdown. Sometimes, it starts with a decision.
Are you Sober Curious? How Sobriety Became My Anchor
Two years sober, I’ve learned that alcohol once masked my pain but never solved it. Sobriety hasn’t just transformed my physical and mental health — it’s reignited my relationships, career, and passion for life. Are you sober curious?
From Shadows to Substance: Building a Life and a Community That Truly Matters
From shadows to substance, this is the journey of resilience, reinvention, and community-building that inspired Get Out. It's no longer about fitting in; we’re breaking the mould, rediscovering authenticity, and creating spaces where everyone truly belongs.