What True Wealth Looks Like (and How I Forgot It for a Minute)
For a while, I kept Get Out running on autopilot - ticking boxes, doing the right things, but feeling the spark fade. Then I read new research on purpose and realised I’d stopped doing the one thing that made all this feel alive: contributing. Happiness, it turns out, isn’t found in chasing more. It’s in giving something meaningful away.
National Coming Out Day: The Year I Stopped Performing (and Started Telling the Truth)
Coming out isn’t just about disclosure - it’s about honesty. In this deeply personal reflection for National Coming Out Day, we explore what happens after the big reveal: the quiet unlearning of performance, the rebuilding of trust, and the courage to stop editing yourself for approval. From Sydney socialite nights to sober mornings that finally feel real, this piece celebrates truth-telling as the ultimate form of self-care - and community as the place where that truth can breathe.
The Myth of Earning Love Through Work
Many of us grow up believing love must be earned through achievement, effort, and endless work. But this belief often leaves us exhausted, lonely, and disconnected from what matters most. Drawing on psychology, personal finance wisdom, and end-of-life reflections, this piece explores the myth of “earning” love, why so many of us fall into the trap, and how to choose differently — reclaiming joy, connection, and presence in the process.
Where to from here?
When I started Get Out in Hobart, I was lonely, part-time, and determined to build a simple bridge between people and their local communities. We’ve built it — and it works. What comes next depends on you. Should we add people, add time, or add investment? Tell us how you connect, what you care about, and where we should focus so Get Out serves real needs, not assumptions. Help shape the next chapter.
Wear It Purple, Wear It Proud
Wear It Purple isn’t about cupcakes — it’s about belonging that saves lives. Growing up in Tasmania, I learned to mask fear by overachieving. Today, I wear purple so rainbow young people see what I couldn’t: ordinary, safe, proud futures. This piece shares the why, the youth reality, and simple ways schools and workplaces can make it real.
Still Showing Up: Impostor Syndrome, New Chapters, and Building Something That Matters
Building Get Out while navigating a new job, a new city, and old patterns of self-doubt has brought up one uncomfortable truth: impostor syndrome doesn’t disappear just because the mission matters. In this reflection, we explore what it means to keep showing up — even when you’re not sure you’re enough — and why that’s exactly the point.
The Intimacy Recession: Why Gen Z Isn’t Having Sex — And Why That’s Okay
As sex rates drop and online intimacy rises, are we witnessing a crisis — or a quiet revolution? From antidepressants to algorithms, this piece explores what it means to want less sex, how desire has evolved, and why choosing connection over performance might be the most radical act of all.
The Power of the Queer Locker Room
In this piece, we reflect on how mainstream sports culture can isolate LGBTQIA+ people — and how queer-friendly teams offer more than just fitness: they offer safety, spark, and belonging. Backed by research and personal experience, this article explores how sport can become a powerful antidote to loneliness, and a practical tool for community connection.
Still Becoming: On Friendship, Identity, and Starting Again
At nearly 40, I thought I’d be settled — friendships locked in, identity formed, life humming along. But starting again doesn’t mean going backwards. In this reflection, I explore what it means to be in midlife and still becoming — still seeking friendship, still letting go, still learning how to belong. If you’ve ever felt the ache of wanting deeper connection, this one’s for you.
Back Into the Lion’s Den
After years of healing, sobriety, and rediscovering purpose, I’ve returned to the city I once left behind — but this time, I’m different. This story is about growth, boundaries, ambition, and learning to protect your peace, even when old environments come knocking. Some friendships may not survive this new chapter, and that’s okay. Because not everyone is meant to go where you’re headed.
Do You Believe in Love at First Sight?
Love at first sight sounds like something from the movies — but in a world of dating app fatigue, quick connections, and rising romantic idealism, more people are starting to believe in it again. This piece explores why belief in instant love is rising, how the concept is evolving, and what it means for queer daters navigating solitude, self-worth, and the search for something real. Drawing on personal reflections, research, and the wisdom of Esther Perel, we unpack why modern romance might require less swiping — and more curiosity.