The Partner Plot Twist: What If Dating Isn’t the Main Story?
If every conversation ends with “So, seeing anyone?”—you’re not imagining it. We’re culturally obsessed with coupling, even as apps turbo-charge snap judgments and fuel loneliness. This piece makes the case for stepping off the treadmill: prioritising friendship, purpose, and community over performance dating. With fresh research on swipes, AI “companions,” and why stated preferences rarely match real choices, here’s how to choose connection that lasts—whether or not it leads to a relationship.
Future-Proofing Your Heart and Mind: The Queer Case for Loving Your Body, Your Brain, and Your Relationships
The habits that keep love steady are the same ones that protect your brain and heart: move often, eat well, stay connected, argue to understand, ask for help. For queer lives with shifting safety nets, this isn’t self-improvement—it’s maintenance for the long haul.
Do You Believe in Love at First Sight?
Love at first sight sounds like something from the movies — but in a world of dating app fatigue, quick connections, and rising romantic idealism, more people are starting to believe in it again. This piece explores why belief in instant love is rising, how the concept is evolving, and what it means for queer daters navigating solitude, self-worth, and the search for something real. Drawing on personal reflections, research, and the wisdom of Esther Perel, we unpack why modern romance might require less swiping — and more curiosity.
Nostalgia for Something You've Never Had: Why We're Longing for Connection Offline
There’s a growing ache in our hyperconnected world—a nostalgia for moments that were never ours. Eye contact. Shared laughter. A spark not filtered through a screen. But what we’re really missing isn’t the past. It’s real connection. Offline. Unfiltered. Human.
Do We Still Need Gay Bars? Or Have Dating Apps Replaced Them?
We don’t need gay bars anymore—we have Grindr." When I heard a younger gay guy say this in Sydney, it hit me in a way I wasn’t expecting. Have LGBTQIA+ spaces really become redundant, or have we just changed how we connect? With Gen Z socialising differently, dating less, and feeling lonelier than ever, what does this mean for the future of our community spaces? And if gay bars disappear, what do we lose?
The Fine Line of Vulnerability: How Much is Too Much?
Vulnerability is essential, but where’s the line between real connection and oversharing? In a world of curated trauma posts and performative sadness, it’s easy to mistake engagement for genuine support. Get Out was born from a need for something real—meaningful connection beyond dating apps, social validation, and loneliness. Here’s why that matters more than ever.