The Pause Before the Next Chapter: Why Get Out Needs a Breath
Get Out is entering a new chapter - one built on honesty, clarity, and intention. After a year of growth, I’m stepping back from weekly output to reconnect with the community, refine what works, rethink what doesn’t, and build a stronger foundation for what’s next. This pause isn’t a retreat; it’s a reset. A chance to dream bigger, start smaller, and invite others into the vision that Get Out was always meant to be.
The Friends You Outgrow (And the Ones Who Help You Grow)
A grounded, deeply personal reflection on how friendships evolve as we grow. This piece explores why some relationships fade, why healing can shift your social landscape, and how to rebuild a circle that fits who you are now - not the person you used to be. For queer adults, movers, rebuilders, and anyone feeling the quiet ache of outgrowing people, this story is a reminder that losing friends isn’t failure - it’s alignment.
Beyond the Vibe: How to Stay Connected (and Sane) Through Dating and the Holidays
The holidays amplify everything - the loneliness, the longing, the pressure to “find someone.” But connection built on real alignment, emotional security, and genuine care lasts far longer than any “good vibe.” This piece explores how to date with intention, stay grounded through holiday loneliness, and build connection that actually feels safe.
The Power of Subtraction: How Sobriety Gave Me Back My Energy, My Time, and My People
Socialising feels harder than ever, but not because we’re broken - because the world is heavy, expensive, and exhausting. This piece explores how queer sobriety, micro-connections, and the surprising wisdom of “subtracting” can create more energy, presence, and joy than we ever found in the nightlife era.
The Human Boomerang: Finding Your People When You’ve Lived 5 Lives Already
After years of bouncing between cities and states, I’ve realised that belonging isn’t a postcode - it’s a practice. This piece explores what it means to rebuild connection after every move, to re-root yourself when life keeps shifting, and to remember that friendships aren’t lost, just paused. Because home isn’t found. It’s built - and rebuilt - on your own terms.
Single On Purpose: Dating Without Burning Your Life Down
After turning 40, I’ve realised I’m not afraid of being alone - I’m afraid of letting the wrong man dismantle a life I’ve worked hard to build. This piece explores how self-protection can blur into self-isolation, why dating apps keep missing the point, and what it means to stay open to love without abandoning yourself in the process.
Convenience Is Stealing Our Community (And We’re Letting It)
Delivery apps, AI, and “frictionless” everything promised to give us time back - but what we traded away were the very skills and social rituals that make life feel full. This piece looks at how we’ve started choosing convenience over connection, why de-skilling is a queer issue as much as a cultural one, and what it would look like to rebuild a life that requires us again.
What a Year of Pitching and Starting Get Out Actually Taught Me
Twelve months of putting Get Out in front of rooms, investors, founders, and friends looked impressive from the outside - Enterprize pitch, community calendar, volunteer tool - but under the surface it was messier, slower, and more human than launch-day narratives ever admit. This is the story of how the idea evolved, where it stalled, what I learned about my own capacity (and limits), and why I’m bringing someone in to help grow what I still believe in.
Why I Run (and Why I Keep Going)
After losing eight friends in six years, I wasn’t suicidal — but I wasn’t really living either. Running gave me a reason to move again. It became meditation, therapy, and a quiet rebellion against despair. Every kilometre said, “You’re still here.”
What True Wealth Looks Like (and How I Forgot It for a Minute)
For a while, I kept Get Out running on autopilot - ticking boxes, doing the right things, but feeling the spark fade. Then I read new research on purpose and realised I’d stopped doing the one thing that made all this feel alive: contributing. Happiness, it turns out, isn’t found in chasing more. It’s in giving something meaningful away.
The Art of Staying After the High
There’s a kind of silence that follows transformation — the hush after the confetti, the stillness after the summit, the hangover after the hope. When I first got sober, no one told me the hardest part wouldn’t be quitting. It would be staying.
Learning to Belong to Myself
Coming out was freedom - but what came after? We explore belonging, authenticity, and the quiet courage of becoming yourself.
What Regret Taught Me (So You Don’t Have to Learn the Hard Way)
Coming out was never the hard part - staying true once the noise began was. I spent years chasing belonging through busyness, mistaking visibility for value. When the mask cracked, I learned something quieter but more enduring: peace isn’t found in being everywhere, it’s built by being honest somewhere. Sobriety, structure, and small rituals didn’t make life smaller - they made it real.
National Coming Out Day: The Year I Stopped Performing (and Started Telling the Truth)
Coming out isn’t just about disclosure - it’s about honesty. In this deeply personal reflection for National Coming Out Day, we explore what happens after the big reveal: the quiet unlearning of performance, the rebuilding of trust, and the courage to stop editing yourself for approval. From Sydney socialite nights to sober mornings that finally feel real, this piece celebrates truth-telling as the ultimate form of self-care - and community as the place where that truth can breathe.
Stop Waiting for a Sign: How to Build Meaning (and Guard Your Life) Without Magic
Coincidences feel like winks from the universe. “Find your passion” promises a perfect fit. Both can keep us stuck. Meaning isn’t discovered; it’s developed. Passion isn’t a soulmate; it’s a relationship you build through reps, friction, and identity. This essay trades omens for agency: shrink the unit of decision, pick a place, invite one person, and practice consistency. There’s a harm-reduction edge too—daylight plans and shared containers protect queer lives from drift and chemsex pressures. Signs can delight you; they just don’t get to steer.
The Companionship Effect: Why Doing Life With People Beats Hustle, Hacks, and Heroics
Most self-help advice is a solo sport: get up earlier, grind harder, optimise smarter. But a huge time-use study shows something simpler—and kinder: almost everything feels better when you don’t do it alone. From co-working to co-errands to low-key “parallel play,” shared rhythms lift mood, make habits stick, and protect mental health (especially for queer folks navigating loneliness or chemsex pressures). This piece swaps lone-wolf optimization for social fitness—tiny, repeatable touch points that make ordinary weeks easier, lighter, and more human.
The Mindful Miles: How Exercise Teaches Us to Slow Down, Breathe, and Be
Exercise doesn’t just strengthen the body - it can quiet the mind. Slowing down into zone 2 running or mindful movement offers a rare stillness in motion, a state where stress eases and presence takes over. This piece explores how mindfulness and exercise intertwine, from scientific evidence on mood-boosting neurochemicals to the lived reality of finding peace through steady effort.
The Myth of Earning Love Through Work
Many of us grow up believing love must be earned through achievement, effort, and endless work. But this belief often leaves us exhausted, lonely, and disconnected from what matters most. Drawing on psychology, personal finance wisdom, and end-of-life reflections, this piece explores the myth of “earning” love, why so many of us fall into the trap, and how to choose differently — reclaiming joy, connection, and presence in the process.
Love, Out Loud (Even When We Disagree)
What if happiness isn’t found in the dream house, the perfect partner, or the algorithm that promises you connection, but in something far less glamorous? A coffee shared with strangers. A difficult truth spoken with kindness. A ritual repeated often enough that it becomes belonging. We think joy is a climax — a wedding, a promotion, a viral moment. But the science (and the stories of ordinary people) keep showing us that happiness is much quieter, more human, and infinitely closer than we realise.
Forty, Without the Filter: Notes on Getting Older, Getting Real, and Getting a Life
Turning forty feels less like joining the “This Is 40” Instagram brigade and more like finally meeting myself. I don’t have the dream house, a partner on my arm, or thirst traps to prove I still “look good for my age.” What I do have is sobriety, friendships that last longer than a weekend, and a body and mind I can actually trust. This isn’t about being “blessed.” It’s about being real, reflective, and quietly proud of progress over perfection.