The Pause Before the Next Chapter: Why Get Out Needs a Breath
Get Out is entering a new chapter - one built on honesty, clarity, and intention. After a year of growth, I’m stepping back from weekly output to reconnect with the community, refine what works, rethink what doesn’t, and build a stronger foundation for what’s next. This pause isn’t a retreat; it’s a reset. A chance to dream bigger, start smaller, and invite others into the vision that Get Out was always meant to be.
The Friends You Outgrow (And the Ones Who Help You Grow)
A grounded, deeply personal reflection on how friendships evolve as we grow. This piece explores why some relationships fade, why healing can shift your social landscape, and how to rebuild a circle that fits who you are now - not the person you used to be. For queer adults, movers, rebuilders, and anyone feeling the quiet ache of outgrowing people, this story is a reminder that losing friends isn’t failure - it’s alignment.
Beyond the Vibe: How to Stay Connected (and Sane) Through Dating and the Holidays
The holidays amplify everything - the loneliness, the longing, the pressure to “find someone.” But connection built on real alignment, emotional security, and genuine care lasts far longer than any “good vibe.” This piece explores how to date with intention, stay grounded through holiday loneliness, and build connection that actually feels safe.
The Power of Subtraction: How Sobriety Gave Me Back My Energy, My Time, and My People
Socialising feels harder than ever, but not because we’re broken - because the world is heavy, expensive, and exhausting. This piece explores how queer sobriety, micro-connections, and the surprising wisdom of “subtracting” can create more energy, presence, and joy than we ever found in the nightlife era.
The Human Boomerang: Finding Your People When You’ve Lived 5 Lives Already
After years of bouncing between cities and states, I’ve realised that belonging isn’t a postcode - it’s a practice. This piece explores what it means to rebuild connection after every move, to re-root yourself when life keeps shifting, and to remember that friendships aren’t lost, just paused. Because home isn’t found. It’s built - and rebuilt - on your own terms.
Convenience Is Stealing Our Community (And We’re Letting It)
Delivery apps, AI, and “frictionless” everything promised to give us time back - but what we traded away were the very skills and social rituals that make life feel full. This piece looks at how we’ve started choosing convenience over connection, why de-skilling is a queer issue as much as a cultural one, and what it would look like to rebuild a life that requires us again.
What True Wealth Looks Like (and How I Forgot It for a Minute)
For a while, I kept Get Out running on autopilot - ticking boxes, doing the right things, but feeling the spark fade. Then I read new research on purpose and realised I’d stopped doing the one thing that made all this feel alive: contributing. Happiness, it turns out, isn’t found in chasing more. It’s in giving something meaningful away.
What Regret Taught Me (So You Don’t Have to Learn the Hard Way)
Coming out was never the hard part - staying true once the noise began was. I spent years chasing belonging through busyness, mistaking visibility for value. When the mask cracked, I learned something quieter but more enduring: peace isn’t found in being everywhere, it’s built by being honest somewhere. Sobriety, structure, and small rituals didn’t make life smaller - they made it real.
National Coming Out Day: The Year I Stopped Performing (and Started Telling the Truth)
Coming out isn’t just about disclosure - it’s about honesty. In this deeply personal reflection for National Coming Out Day, we explore what happens after the big reveal: the quiet unlearning of performance, the rebuilding of trust, and the courage to stop editing yourself for approval. From Sydney socialite nights to sober mornings that finally feel real, this piece celebrates truth-telling as the ultimate form of self-care - and community as the place where that truth can breathe.