The Friends You Outgrow (And the Ones Who Help You Grow)
A grounded, deeply personal reflection on how friendships evolve as we grow. This piece explores why some relationships fade, why healing can shift your social landscape, and how to rebuild a circle that fits who you are now - not the person you used to be. For queer adults, movers, rebuilders, and anyone feeling the quiet ache of outgrowing people, this story is a reminder that losing friends isn’t failure - it’s alignment.
The Art of Staying After the High
There’s a kind of silence that follows transformation — the hush after the confetti, the stillness after the summit, the hangover after the hope. When I first got sober, no one told me the hardest part wouldn’t be quitting. It would be staying.
Learning to Belong to Myself
Coming out was freedom - but what came after? We explore belonging, authenticity, and the quiet courage of becoming yourself.
What Regret Taught Me (So You Don’t Have to Learn the Hard Way)
Coming out was never the hard part - staying true once the noise began was. I spent years chasing belonging through busyness, mistaking visibility for value. When the mask cracked, I learned something quieter but more enduring: peace isn’t found in being everywhere, it’s built by being honest somewhere. Sobriety, structure, and small rituals didn’t make life smaller - they made it real.
National Coming Out Day: The Year I Stopped Performing (and Started Telling the Truth)
Coming out isn’t just about disclosure - it’s about honesty. In this deeply personal reflection for National Coming Out Day, we explore what happens after the big reveal: the quiet unlearning of performance, the rebuilding of trust, and the courage to stop editing yourself for approval. From Sydney socialite nights to sober mornings that finally feel real, this piece celebrates truth-telling as the ultimate form of self-care - and community as the place where that truth can breathe.